“It is better to hear the rebuke of the wise than for a man to hear the song of fools” Ecclesiastes 7:5
My kindergarten teacher used to love my poems. When I graduated to 1st grade and I decided to wow my new teacher with a funny poem. She returned the poem the next day with big red marks all over it. To her it was not funny, just silly. I was devastated. I did not write another poem for over 10 years.
In college I took a creative writing class and we read our creations to the whole class and everybody spoke up about what we liked or did not like and I hated it. It felt like somebody was punching me in the gut, I took it so personally.
Decades later I went to a literary critique group who slashed and diced every word and I found myself actually learning something. Because of that group my writing has improved greatly.
We need to get over ourselves. Sometimes it’s like we want a choir of fools to follow us around singing, “for he’s a jolly good fellow”. But it is better to hear the rebuke of a wise friend than a hundred people flattering and congratulating you. Heard all this before? Great? But how are you doing in the defensive department?